The truth about being Consistent

An important character trait with benefits

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Hello Friends! How are you? I hope well. This weeks post is about being consistent.

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After an interesting week full of inspiration, I thought it might be a good idea to share what I learned.

You know as we journey through this life we may face a few highs and lows. Regardless, the aim should always be on the prize…whatever that is. Once we reach it, only then can we enjoy the fullness of the journey, whether easy or tough.

That being said, I had a bit of revelation as to how important it is to be consistent no matter what obstacles we face. When one is consistent in pursuing their goal a few attributes are developed along the way that makes reaching the goal less of a chore and more desirable.

These attributes can vary from person to person but at the core, there are a few key qualities that all who attain their dreams possess.

One who is Consistent will…

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Develop Discipline – There is no doubt this life quality varies from person to person. It almost seems to be quite allusive too when you look out over the vast majority of folks across all job fields. The thing is, as with most life lessons it has to be learned. That may take time depending on the individual. Some learn quickly! Adapting to whatever sacrifices are necessary to achieve a dream. Others seem to toil with it from day to day, week to week, and year to year only to find out that time has slipped them by. For the one who accepts this character trait, there is an understanding there will be times of sacrifice and gut-wrenching determination to complete whatever task is necessary for achieving the goal. Sometimes sleep is compromised, early attendance is expected and/or unwanted participation is the norm.

Build Trust – If you are into social media then this is a definite quality one must accept. Trust in any relationship is important. When developed it can create a bond that no-one outside the sphere could easily break. So how is this built? I am so glad you ask. Through consistency of course. When a consistent stream of reliable information mingled with a relatable personality is shared a platform of trust is built. From there and over time will trust be given a chance to grow.

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Promote a Standard – At the core of being consistent develops a Standard! This Standard is a core character trait that shows up anytime that particular person shows up. Like trust, it is established within early and then developed over time. As engagements are met, clients are mentally engaged and physically motivated a Standard begins to be made. Over time and with successes others will begin to expect value from the connection made. The value accepted will equate to a Standard of quality expected anytime information is shared.

So there you have it. These are just a few highlights on what I believe are important takeaways to being consistent. I am sure there are more. If you have additional character points please share them. I would be delighted to hear them.

To hear me share these points, connect with me on IGTV.

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To Sacrifice means to Plant Seeds​

Sacrificing is not only apart of life but yields benefits too.

Hello friends! Whew! What a week! How was your week? Mine was not too bad.

I endured the heat and humidity, completed two 2-a day workout sessions, and shared quality time with a few of my employees.

This kinda exemplifies a typical day and week for me. I would like to say the highlight would be the workouts but of course, life is much more than that. Which is why I want to share how important it is to sacrifice.

As I go through each day, I realize we sacrifice more than we know. Think about it? From the time we rise and go on our way, there is some sort of sacrifice made.

If employed, one has to sacrifice their personal time for the entity that has hired them. If you have a family, then a sacrifice of time and money is expected. With all the sacrificing one may tend to lose sight that it is a good thing.

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So, to put sacrifice in the right perspective I have highlighted a few guide points.

Sacrificing…

  1. Is Apart of life-There is no easy way to break this to ya. Sacrifice is here to stay and the sooner it is accepted the better off one is. As mentioned earlier, to sacrifice is to understand that if there is anything worth having one will sacrifice something at some point.  Just think about what you have now that’s worth keeping.
  2. May not feel good at times-To put it bluntly,  going for anything worth having may not feel the best while going through. For example, I have mentioned at times enduring a physical fitness workout. I enjoy workouts and what the end result can bring but the day to day and week to week routines are a sacrifice. I would love to wish for perfect health and body but reality says I have to physically put forth a sacrifice to achieve the health results desired. The sacrifice will include foregoing certain foods and snacks for a time. It may mean completing workout assignments at times when I feel lazy and unmotivated. Regardless, if I want to achieve the health results I must endure.
  3. Sacrifice brings benefits-This is my point! HANG IN THERE! NO matter what the goal, if it is worth reaching stay in the day to day and week to week sacrifice. Sacrifices are seeds planted at some point then over time yield positive results. These could be good health numbers, an increase in pay from your employer(subscribers), a student’s success based on your tutelage, a progressively healthy patient, or even a changed-heart spouse. These are just a few examples. The point is that sacrifice does not have to be looked at in a negative sense. When viewed from this perspective one knows it is just a matter of time before a circumstance, situation, or condition changes.

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There ya go! Just a few tips on sacrifice that hopefully help you make it through to your goal(s).

Of course, this is not a complete list so feel free to share your points in the comments. I would love to hear them.

To hear me chat more about this topic connect with me on Instagram. Select the IGTV menu button. Much love and success to you!

The Resilient Woman series

Courage Tenacity Persistence

Hello and welcome back to this week’s posts on the Resilient Woman. I hope you have enjoyed the candid responses from the ladies who so graciously accepted doing the interview.

This weeks guest can be described in a word; Determined.

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Growing up, Teika Towns was exposed to much; love, separation, trust, alcoholism, partying, and determination. Although this was the case, faith helped her to overcome paths to destruction and guide her to where she is today. Her story, for many, is a common one and another great example of an individual not allowing circumstances to defeat them in life. She has developed a caring for others approach in this life that she undoubtedly has learned from past experiences.

Take a listen as she shares a few personal points that will be sure to hit home with others.

So Teika, welcome! What are your initial thoughts?

First off, I want to say thank you for allowing me the opportunity to participate and thank you for thinking of me!  When you first asked me to be involved, I wasn’t really sure of what I was going to say or even, really, what it means to be a strong or resilient woman. Most of my experience has just been based on survival. But as I had time to think and reflect, please see my answers below.

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TWH-What is your definition of a strong woman?

My definition of a strong woman is a woman that is not defined by the strength of the man she may be with. A strong woman knows how to carry herself, take care of her family and take care of others. A strong woman may not always have her looks together or her appearance together, which can be misconstrued as a weakened state, however, to me, it just means that she is taking care of business and will do what is necessary to make sure the needs of her family and others are met.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain. 

A resilient woman possesses the following qualities: loyalty: loyal to her family, loyal to her job, her church, and most of all, loyal to GOD. GOD most certainly needs to play the role in a resilient woman because He is where her strength comes from.

Trust: A resilient woman can be trusted.  When she displays her loyalty, those who spend any time around her can be assured that trust is the basis of her very foundation.

Bounce back: A resilient woman bounces back.  I have been in a few situations where I felt like I was going to be taken down by the situation. I was married to a man for almost 4 years and we were only together for 19 months of those 4 years. Long enough to have 2 children. I felt like he thought I was young and could run my life, and I let him do it for a while to keep what I thought was “peace”. During that time period, I let myself go for a while, but I always made sure my daughter was well dressed (I didn’t have my son until after we parted ways). My mom would always notice that my clothes would be a little tattered or I may have had stains from carrying for my daughter on them. At the time, I just didn’t care; any chance I could get, I wanted to get out of the house and away from him. But the LORD dealt kindly with me and gave me my Bounce Back! I can remember when I first left him, one of the sister’s at the church said to me, in my face, “When the LORD delivers you from Egypt, you don’t go back!” I truly believe GOD used her to tell me to only look forward!!

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action? 

My experience is being a single mother. I had the best example of my own mother though. I would always say that if I could be half the woman and mother that she was and is, I would be all the better for it! I waited until my kids were almost out of high school to go to college. In all honesty, the only reason why I went back to school was because in 2007, when my manager, Pat Kendrick (MeeMaw), put in my review that I should go to school, I wanted to meet that goal and challenge for my job, and at the time that was the only reason. I started school in January 2008, and finished with my MBA in May 2014; all while working full-time, taking care of my kids and home, and meeting my responsibilities at church and for the LORD. I finally had to realize that was a door HE opened! My GPA ended up being nearly a 3.7 all while maintaining life! I’d have to say that was one of my most greatest showcases of being a resilient woman. I wanted to also be an example to my kids, and other young men and women at church that they can do ANYTHING!! I also re-married during that six-year period, which was a HUGE adjustment for me and my children, because up until my husband came along, we were all we had so to speak. Sure my parents and family and church family were there, but when it came down to the nitty-gritty, it was just me and my kids!

TWH- What barriers if any may the resilient women encounter? 

Some barriers a resilient woman may face could be social and economic limits. But I believe this to be from man’s point of view. Those barriers are there, but it only goes to show that we must rely on GOD through those barriers. That’s also what makes us resilient, facing those barriers, but still believing we can succeed.

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TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how? 

I would have to say that society is starting to recognize the resilient woman! Look at Michelle Obama. She had to endure much in her role as FLOTUS. With all she and POTUS had to face during their tenure in the White House, I can remember in one of her speeches when she said: “When they go low, we go high!” That spoke volumes! A simple statement that poignantly says that society will try and pull a person (in many instances, women) down. And some will succumb to society, but then for the rest of us, no matter what we face, always go high!

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too. 

My example of a strong woman, is without a doubt, my MAMA!! She is the strongest woman I know! My life sorta puddled in her footsteps with raising two children, working a full-time job, AND going to school full-time, as a single mom. If she struggled, and I know she did, she never let my sister and me see it! She was and is still my hero! If I could choose another, it would be my godmother, Tracey Posey! She too has endured so much. Not always with grace, but because of the mercy of the LORD and her persistence to want to do right by GOD. She is still a work in progress, but I appreciate the LORD for her being so candid with anyone she talks to!

TWH- Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman? 

I do not feel there are any limits to being a strong woman. It is a personal choice. I will say that strength does lie in numbers.  We must surround ourselves with other strong women, but at the same time, be there for that young woman, and even older women, who are struggling. We need to use our strength to build each other up. Most times, it isn’t a man who is belittling a woman, but it is other women, belittling other women!

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them? 

I would have to say the same as #7.

Quite truthful and gut-wrenching responses Teika. Thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts.

Well everyone, again we have another courageous lady that quite frankly is and has handled business. Hopefully, you have not only been educated in some way but encouraged to press on. Thanks for the read!

Stay tuned for next weeks guest.

 

 

 

The Resilient Woman series

Courage, Tenacity, Persistence

Hello Friends! Glad your back!

If you have not tuned in lately, I’d say you’ve missed some valuable information pertaining to the theme “The Resilient Woman“. But don’t fret, there is still time to catch up! The guests have been simply exceptional. All have provided varying life perspectives yet reinforce the fact that courage, tenacity, and persistence are in the Resilient Woman’s DNA.

This weeks’ guest is Tanethia Holden.

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Tanethia is a true warrior and this is no lie. Tanethia is an army veteran who has endured her fair share of life trials. She is an unwed mother to her daughter who has embraced the courage to face anything that may rise against her success. Her current job as a Registered Nurse in an ICU embodies the mindset of one who is a quick decision maker and displays a never give up attitude. Read on and receive her thoughts on “The Resilient Woman”

So, Tanethia…

TWH- What is your definition of a strong woman?

A strong woman has learned how to play off of her strengths and leverage her weaknesses.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

I think love makes us resilient. When a woman learns how to truly love herself, she won’t succumb to the pain this world has to offer. Love is very transformative. When I started reading up on self-love and seeing images of women who talked about self-care and love, I started to move and think differently about myself.

I have always considered myself as being resilient because of my flexible nature. I try to be receptive to new ways of thinking and perception. If you’re rigid in your ways and frame of thought, how can you be resilient when there will be a time for a change in your life?

So essentially, love and flexibility are a couple of qualities that a resilient woman possesses.

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?

If any woman has had a child or children, by nature, she transforms to be the woman she needs to be for her kids. If a woman has ever had her heart broken, she still finds the will to hope for the type of love she is deserving of.

TWH-  What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?

Sometimes we get beat down with life (work, raising kids, mental/physical/sexual abuse), and it can become difficult for a woman to see the forest from the trees.

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TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

For instance, the Me Too movement has opened the doors for women who felt they didn’t have a voice when egregious things have happened to them. Society doesn’t really recognize a resilient woman. But it doesn’t even fucking matter because we as women are making things happen whether men or society want to acknowledge us or not.

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

I look over my life and see the woman I am becoming and always have been. I look at myself as an example. I don’t know of anyone else’s journey as intimately as I know my own. My grandma is another example. She suffered a stroke and has been in a nursing home for the past several years. I don’t know how she does it, but she speaks as though she is walking and living a full life. She lives in the hope of doing more extraordinary things.

TWH  Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

I think a woman is a fool if she thinks being strong all day long, 24/7/365 is the business. Being strong all the time is a limitation in itself. It takes me back to my earlier point about a resilient woman knowing how to leverage her weaknesses. That’s why it’s essential to at least have good, reliable people in your life to help you get through life’s up and downs.

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I always lend an encouraging word. Or I would be frank about my evaluation of a situation if my sister-friend needed advice. I will provide the support that she would need. My support would be loving but limited because I vowed not to be strong for others for the sake of my sanity and mental health.

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Tanethia, thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts on “The Resilient Woman”

Well, I told you, folks. Her thoughts are definitely energizing and should provoke you to handle business as you originally planned.  Don’t hold back but press and go after it!

Tanethia is quite active on social media too. Connect with her weekly to be inspired.

Tanethia Holden- Social media information below

Twitter:  www.twitter.com/OMG_its_misst/

Instagram: www.instagram.com/ladytanethia/

Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/tanethia/

Blog/website: queendomreigns.com

 

My Trip South

Every trip should be Fun, Educational, Relaxing, and Spontaneous

Hi friends! Hope all is well. I’m excited! Excited to share with you my trip south. You ask, where did I go? We’ll let me tell ya!

But before I do, let me share this with you.

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From now on, I am going to focus on four sort of guidelines to help me determine where and how I spend my trips (vacations) away from home.

They have to be Fun, Educational, Relaxing and Spontaneous.

Which is to say, will it have a fun element to it, will I come out knowing a bit more of the experience when it’s over, will I be able to relax at some point, and finally will it have a bit of spontaneity?

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I came up with this after my last trip. It was freakn enjoyable.

As you would think, I started out with the usual plan of deciding where to go and why. I am kind of a history nerd so it was not too hard to decide on a few historical sights to lock in. In recent years this historical curiosity has energized me, even more, to plan my extended absences away from home in locations of historical significance.

So I decided to go south!

I traveled to the southern State of Tennessee and explored a Civil War Battle site which was a strategic lookout point for any army trying to keep an eye out for the enemy. This was amazing!

From there I traveled over to the next State of Georgia with plans to watch an old past time of America…baseball.

The nice thing about this was experiencing the great seats and the team’s new stadium. While there, I also traveled to that States oldest city…Savannah. Here, I viewed many of that city’s oldest landmarks and explored the African American rich history to which I was extremely enlightened to the impact in that region.

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Next, it was on to the next State of South Carolina visiting a city well known in American history for its Civil War stance, its architecture, and its pivotal position regarding slavery…Charleston.

The time spent was definitely enlightening and jaw-dropping, to say the least.

Finally, heading back North, I ended up at the beach for a day to soak in a few salty waves and then travel back home.

The trip away from home encompassed all my personal request; learning more than when I arrived, enjoying a bit of relaxation, having an enjoyable time, and thinking of where to go on the fly. It was simply enjoyable.

During the entire trip, I really enjoyed the idea of traveling, the sight-seeing, the food, the architecture, the weather, and many other nuances.

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So, if you do get a chance to travel away from home on an extended basis, definitely keep these tips in mind.

I’m curious though? If you are a traveler what tips do you suggest?

Thanks for reading and stay tuned for upcoming posts that highlight the details of each respective sight visited.

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The Resilient Woman

In her DNA is Courage Tenacity Persistence

Hello Friends! Continuing on with the theme “The Resilient Woman”, this weeks’ interview is from one of your sweetest travel bloggers, Dianna Allen.

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The previous post, highlights the reason behind the theme and its intentions.

Dianna has had her share of tough circumstances. Growing up, she encountered bouts of racism in addition to handling a tough home life. Through it all, she has learned to be gentle but tough skinned when necessary. Overcoming these challenges has also helped her to see the world differently by not being afraid to accept responsibilities and clearly handling business in life when necessary. Dianna likes to have fun, loves to travel and always encourages a smile.

So Dianna,

TWH-What is your definition of a strong woman?

Dianna-To me, a strong woman means fearless and determined. Strength comes in the form of overcoming hardships and not being afraid to do what must be done is required. Because of this, being determined comes naturally when you’re fearless.

TWH-A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

Dianna-Being resilient means that you are not affected by the negative. Holding your head high every day and keeping a positive attitude is key when it seems like your world is falling apart.

TWH-Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the Resilient women in action?

Dianna-I can name quite a couple just from my own life. I’ll start with when I was 18. I actually was living in a tough household, I won’t get into too many details, but for my own mental health, I needed out. I didn’t know how to live on my own at the time, but I made it work. I balanced college and working full-time to ensure I was still able to create the best life for me. Even though those years were tough, in the end, I made the right decision. And not only did I save myself, but I also saved relationships with my family because of my actions.

On a smaller scale, I remember times I’ve been faced with racism. Being part Asian and a woman, I’ve received my fair share of racial and woman jokes. My resilience in these situations has always been to not let rude remarks affect me, however, do not allow it to be tolerated either. If it’s uncalled for, I let that be known and walk away from the situation. Trust me, you should never surround yourself with negativity. You can always walk away.

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TWH-What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?

Dianna-Doubt. People will doubt you, it’s inevitable. Don’t take it personally. Instead, see it as an invitation to prove them wrong!

TWH-Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

Dianna-Society is definitely recognizing resilient women across the world! Let’s talk about current events and look at Meghan Markle, for example. That is a woman who has defied many odds through her life. From re-directing her character roles from being over-sexualized to actually respected personas and of course, how she has married into the British Royal Family as an American.

This day in age has been all about women. They are more empowered and respected than ever, and they are making sure their voices get heard.

TWH-Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

Dianna-For me, a strong woman is, of course, my mother. For reasons that are similar to me. When she was 23, she left her home in the Philippines and immigrated to America. An accomplishment that no one else in her large family had ever done. If that’s not fearless, then I don’t know what is! I’ve been traveling for many months now, mostly in Asia, and seeing the world she came from has truly opened my eyes to how courageous she chose to live her life.

She’s also strong because now she has to deal with missing me on the other side of the world. 😉

TWH-Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

Dianna-None. Never.

TWH-If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

Dianna-Don’t ever let someone tell you can’t do something. And in those times where you feel like you can’t do something, do not let it discourage you. Do not give up.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Harry Potter and ever since I heard it, I always think about it when times seem rough. Maybe it will help out the next person who hears it as well:

“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light.”

Thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts on “The Resilient Woman” Dianna.

There you have it, friends! Another unique perspective. Please show some love for Dianna. If you need the motivation to travel, Dianna can share a tip or two.

Dianna’s contact and social media information:

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Twitter  https://www.twitter.com/outglobing/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/diannamallen/

Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/diannamallen

Blog/website https://www.outglobing.com

The Resilient Woman

Courage Tenacity and Persistence

The Resilient Woman

Hello friends! Welcome back to my blog site called The Watering W(h)ole. Half the year is almost past and I have been thinking of another topic I believe warrants our attention. Courage, tenacity, and persistence have been the underlying thought of this next theme I want to share with you all.

Now, I have not totally abandoned my regularly shared health and wellness posts highlighting my transition to a healthier lifestyle but will revisit once this segment is complete.

So what is it that you are describing? Before I so boldly share in depth with you the theme, let me kinda describe to you my motivation. Over the years I have often wondered about the topic concerning what it means to be a strong woman? Viewing strictly from an open mind I could only make a response based on observing how my mother handled life.

Life for her was in the baby boomer age and involved raising two boys alone. I could only tell you that we always had a roof over our head, clothes on our back and food to eat. This was all I saw on the surface but never knew the depth of what she really had to endure. Being a woman of color, she undoubtedly had to endure social and economic barriers.

Thankfully she never let those challenges discourage her from pressing on to provide for her family.

That being said, she has been the inspiration behind the segment “The Resilient Woman”

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I am in no way an expert on who or what encompasses a Resilient Woman so I have to ask for help. I have requested input on the topic from several women. The women come from various ethnic backgrounds, economic status, and age groups. Through a series of interview questions, each will share their perspective on what encompasses the Resilient Woman.

 

My hope is that we all are better educated and well informed on the Strong and Resilient woman.

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My first guest is originally from Canada but now resides in the United States.

Meet Heather Spindler.

Heather is the oldest of three sisters who has trooped through life successfully. Other than dealing with personal challenges, she has progressed as an example to her younger siblings, by pursuing higher education at the college “The Ohio State University”. After graduating she was hired on full time as a pre-certification representative and has progressed to the current position as manager. In her spare time, she enjoys bike riding and walks in the park.

Heather,

  1. What is your definition of a strong woman?  My definition of a strong woman is one that is able to take care of herself and those around her (depending on her life situation), while also being able to identify when she needs to ask for help or get assistance.  She is also one who continues to learn new things and is willing to teach others the strengths that she possesses.
  2. A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.  Determination, flexibility and a willingness to step out of her comfort zone.  I am a firm believer that if you stay in your comfort zone, you will miss out on experiencing new things and learning new skills.  Having said that, if you aren’t able to be flexible in situations, you will find yourself stuck in a rut or put in a box by those that you know.  Finally, a determination will help you attain goals that you have set for yourself and might be the one thing that gets you through a hard situation.  Stick with it – you will see results!  
  3. 20170808_182840Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?    I admire women who have been single parents and successfully raise their children to be successful citizens.  There is so much we don’t know that she has encountered and overcome.  I also see successful women in the workplace.  Ones that have not only become valuable employees but have mentored others to follow their lead.  I have the privilege of working for such a woman.  She is constantly learning new skills but takes the time to teach those things to those that work under her.  She makes us better employees. 
  4. What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?  I feel that sometimes a resilient woman may be looked at as being too strong or independent.  The skills that allow her to meet the needs of her life could seem to others are standoffish or as if she doesn’t need anyone.  Nothing could be further than the truth – we all need those around us.20171107_194618 (2)
  5. Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?  I think that society is starting to recognize these women, but there is still room for improvement.  I think it is the responsibility of each of us to find these women and honor them.  Mentoring is so important and what better way could we honor those that we have learned from than to pass that legacy on to others?
  6. Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that tooMy grandmother was one of the most resilient women I know.  Early in her married life, her husband and young son passed away, leaving her to raise two children on her own.  She was a proud woman, but knew when she needed help and sought out that help.  Although she did not have much herself, she met the needs of her children and those around her that were worse off than she was.  She had a deep faith in God and brought up her children to honor God.  I know that some of the qualities that I possess are a direct result of what I learned from her.  She was willing to pass along those life lessons she learned to her children and grandchildren.
  7. Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?  I think that sometimes others put qualities onto a strong woman that may not be true.  They may think that when she is determined or stepping out on her own that she is unwilling to learn from others or has a “know it all” attitude.  Or that because she is strong she can’t also be vulnerable or feeling.  It’s so important that you get to know her, to know what is important to her or what she may need.
  8. If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?  I would encourage one to find a woman that personifies the qualities that you find important and be willing to learn from them.  You have to be willing to hear that a decision that you made might not have been the right one, but what is important is how you respond to those situations.  Know that you aren’t going to get it right every time, but learning from those situations will help you in your future decisions and how you respond can be so important.

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Thank you, Heather, for participating and sharing your thoughts on the Resilient Woman.

Heather is active on social media too. She can found on

Twitter: www.Twitter.com/hlsgobucks/

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/hlspindler/

Stay tuned for next weeks guest.

 

 

Stress? Fight or Flight Part II

Did you know that outside of relationships there are quite a few reasons to be stressed?

Hi everyone! Glad you stayed tuned.

Well, let’s get to it. For a recap, we discovered stress to be associated with that fight or fight feeling that one gets in a situation that seems unanswerable. Stress can also affect any and everyone.

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Did you know that outside of relationships there are quite a few reasons to be stressed? In fact, according to the American Psychology Association, a study from 2007 to 2010 revealed money, work, the economy, and family responsibilities to be leading causes of stress.

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Respondents point out that the pressures of responsibility in the workplace contribute to increased stress to meet deadlines. What’s interesting is in 2007 74% were affected as compared to a 5 to 6 percent drop over the next couple of years. Curiosity led me to find out that during the 2007 year in the U.S. there was a major housing bubble event. The stress connected with not having a home could be overwhelming.

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Respondents also claimed earning money as the second reason stress is prevalent. Perhaps this is because of a combination of contributing factors stemming from either overindulgent personal desires or overall economics.

What are the symptoms of stress? As there are many causes of stress, there are quite a few symptoms that one may exhibit.

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A lack of interest could be noticed in a person who customarily is involved. On the other hand, lack of appetite could be an obvious one. Especially when you know the person is quite fond of eating. Some individuals may experience common symptoms of having a headache or exhibiting fatigue. The attached survey highlights a few others of what percentage respondents experienced from the years 2007-2010.

So what are the long-term effects of stress if not managed? Well, the effects range from behavioral and physical.

Behavioral effects could range from one being depressed to serious anxiety attacks.

Stress if not managed properly could affect eating habits that lead to obesity. In some, sexual performance problems could be evident. Other extended issues might be related to skin, hair, intestinal, and menstrual.

So what can be done to help manage stress? Well, let’s see.

  • Support from loved ones-those close by(friends too) can be pillars in the time of stress offering mental, physical, and monetary support
  • Regular exercise-physical exercises can be a great way to take your focus off of stressful circumstance. Physical activity causes you to redirect your energies to whatever the task is at hand; Basketball, Pool, swimming, running, resistance training, or yoga.
  • Meditation-spending time just relaxing(quiet time) and mentally redirecting energies is a great way to reset your mind.
  • Listening to Music-Music is an ultimate mood changer. Music melodies have a way of soothing or energizing the mind. This can be an enjoyable way to be mentally massaged.
  • Reading-reading is a sure fire way to redirect your focus. In order to understand what you’re reading your mind has to be in the game.

So, there you go. Not a complete list but hopefully a decent informational teaser regarding stress.

Stress is definitely real and no laughing matter. With more expected out of an individual today in practically the same amount of hours in the day, one can feel overwhelmed. Stats show that situations have affected everyone across the globe, so adopting stress managing techniques will be a must.

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Recapping, we found out that stress is that Fight or Flight feeling one gets when in a pressure type situation. Stress can affect anyone. It does not matter regarding gender, age, nationality, or status in life. We discussed some of the symptoms related to being stressful and the potential causes. It was revealed that stress, if not managed, can affect one mentally and have physical effects. Finally, incorporating stress management tools will help to relieve or even eradicate the impact of stress in one’s life.

Glad you were able to tune in. Thanks for reading. With every post, I learn a little bit more and love sharing to encourage. Hope you were enlightened.

Stay tuned for the next post.

Christmas Eve Get Together 2017

Although Christmas has passed, as promised, I wanted to share the experience of this years’ Christmas Eve get together.

A few years back the idea of having one was only talked about and after a little bit of persuasion, the wish was granted. Let me tell you, it has been a hit and this year was definitely better than the last. Why you ask? Well, there was plenty of good food, interesting games, and new faces.

Outside of a traditional meal of roasted beef or turkey, colorful vegetables, delicious casseroles, and eye-popping desserts the menu is toned back to more of a sporting environment. The menu consisted of buffalo chicken tacos, hot wings and a beef and potato stew. Simply delicious and satisfying! Yum yum! Christmas Day the aforementioned menu was eaten. Haha.

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Games are always fun! One game that is a highlight is the Saran Wrap Ball game. One simply buys plenty of trinkets to wrap in layers with saran wrap plastic. The size of the ball is determined by how many trinkets are wrapped. What’s wrapped can be candy, gift cards, pencils, pens, or even a notepad.  The catch is one has to use cooking mittens to unwrap the ball in 30 seconds. Several turns by everyone will ultimately shrink the ball. Hilarious! It will sure get all involved.

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The new game can involve up to 8 people or more. It is called Fact or Crap. The game consists of cards with questions that are either fact or crap. Each player gets tokens and depending on whether your answer to the question is fact or crap determines whether you increase your tokens or give them up. Gotta know your stuff about this game. Plenty of guessing too. The winner will be the one with the most chips. By the way, I was the first to depart the game due to no tokens. Bummer! The winner that ran away with the game was the youngest of us all. A 7th grader who was not only a good guesser but remembered many of the historical notes taught in school. Awesome!

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Finally, this year brought in a new friend to the group. A very close friend of mine married and his wife enjoyed the get-together. He texted me later that evening and noted they had a blast. Very encouraging. There were also a few young additions to the family that enjoyed the food, gifts, and camaraderie.

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Well, that’s it! I hope I did not bore you. This was special for me because there was a time I was not involved in anything like this. Very Thankful. I will be looking forward to next year.

Up next- I’ll share my New Year Resolutions.

Photos: courtesy of Giphy

It’s Christmas Day

Hello Friends! 

So how was this years’ Christmas for ya? Did you get out of it what you expected? Well, I hope it went as you so desired.

Hello Friends!

So how was this years’ Christmas for ya? Did you get out of it what you expected? Well, I hope it went as you so desired.

Christmas time is definitely one of my better holidays. I personally love the atmosphere of giving that surrounds it.  Although I do not get as many gifts as I was when in my youth, haha, I still love this time of year. The atmosphere just presents the right conditions to be unselfish and think of someone else. I personally use this time of year to give cards to employee families that express my thanks and gratitude for their invaluable contribution to the team.

I love the lights. I have seen so many nice decorations. Many have decorated their homes and offices so nice with color and designs. One design showed the entire house being decorated with the focal point being a 50 ft lighted archway as you approached the door. So magnificent!

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I love the celebrations. History will prove that this time of year spurs on many celebrations. Many celebrate their cultures existence, some celebrate just to celebrate, and others celebrate the birth of Christ.

I had the chance to go to a Chinese Lantern Festival. Wow. Nice! Love the food, designs, color, and history. Definitely, a must see if you have not experienced.

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I love the food. This is kind of a given to me. Although I love to eat any time of the year,  Christmas time presents a couple of season-specific treats. There are the good old egg-nog and Gingerbread cookie.

Of course, there is roasted turkey, Christmas ham, plenty of veggie trays, a mix of casseroles, and a plethora of desserts. Whatever offered I can tell you I am usually game to eat. This year as part of a pre-Christmas Day bash, Buffalo chicken dip, taco salad and green bean potato soup were on the list.  So good! I’m sure I went over my calories for the day. Haha!

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Well, again! My prayer is that you my friend had a good time sharing, giving, or receiving on this 2017 Christmas Day.

Stay tuned for the next post where I share highlights of the 2017 Pre-Christmas day celebration.

Much love to you all!

Photos: Courtesy Giphy

 

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