The Resilient Woman

Courage Tenacity and Persistence

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The Resilient Woman

Hello friends! Welcome back to my blog site called The Watering W(h)ole. Half the year is almost past and I have been thinking of another topic I believe warrants our attention. Courage, tenacity, and persistence have been the underlying thought of this next theme I want to share with you all.

Now, I have not totally abandoned my regularly shared health and wellness posts highlighting my transition to a healthier lifestyle but will revisit once this segment is complete.

So what is it that you are describing? Before I so boldly share in depth with you the theme, let me kinda describe to you my motivation. Over the years I have often wondered about the topic concerning what it means to be a strong woman? Viewing strictly from an open mind I could only make a response based on observing how my mother handled life.

Life for her was in the baby boomer age and involved raising two boys alone. I could only tell you that we always had a roof over our head, clothes on our back and food to eat. This was all I saw on the surface but never knew the depth of what she really had to endure. Being a woman of color, she undoubtedly had to endure social and economic barriers.

Thankfully she never let those challenges discourage her from pressing on to provide for her family.

That being said, she has been the inspiration behind the segment “The Resilient Woman”

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I am in no way an expert on who or what encompasses a Resilient Woman so I have to ask for help. I have requested input on the topic from several women. The women come from various ethnic backgrounds, economic status, and age groups. Through a series of interview questions, each will share their perspective on what encompasses the Resilient Woman.

 

My hope is that we all are better educated and well informed on the Strong and Resilient woman.

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My first guest is originally from Canada but now resides in the United States.

Meet Heather Spindler.

Heather is the oldest of three sisters who has trooped through life successfully. Other than dealing with personal challenges, she has progressed as an example to her younger siblings, by pursuing higher education at the college “The Ohio State University”. After graduating she was hired on full time as a pre-certification representative and has progressed to the current position as manager. In her spare time, she enjoys bike riding and walks in the park.

Heather,

  1. What is your definition of a strong woman?  My definition of a strong woman is one that is able to take care of herself and those around her (depending on her life situation), while also being able to identify when she needs to ask for help or get assistance.  She is also one who continues to learn new things and is willing to teach others the strengths that she possesses.
  2. A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.  Determination, flexibility and a willingness to step out of her comfort zone.  I am a firm believer that if you stay in your comfort zone, you will miss out on experiencing new things and learning new skills.  Having said that, if you aren’t able to be flexible in situations, you will find yourself stuck in a rut or put in a box by those that you know.  Finally, a determination will help you attain goals that you have set for yourself and might be the one thing that gets you through a hard situation.  Stick with it – you will see results!  
  3. 20170808_182840Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?    I admire women who have been single parents and successfully raise their children to be successful citizens.  There is so much we don’t know that she has encountered and overcome.  I also see successful women in the workplace.  Ones that have not only become valuable employees but have mentored others to follow their lead.  I have the privilege of working for such a woman.  She is constantly learning new skills but takes the time to teach those things to those that work under her.  She makes us better employees. 
  4. What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?  I feel that sometimes a resilient woman may be looked at as being too strong or independent.  The skills that allow her to meet the needs of her life could seem to others are standoffish or as if she doesn’t need anyone.  Nothing could be further than the truth – we all need those around us.20171107_194618 (2)
  5. Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?  I think that society is starting to recognize these women, but there is still room for improvement.  I think it is the responsibility of each of us to find these women and honor them.  Mentoring is so important and what better way could we honor those that we have learned from than to pass that legacy on to others?
  6. Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that tooMy grandmother was one of the most resilient women I know.  Early in her married life, her husband and young son passed away, leaving her to raise two children on her own.  She was a proud woman, but knew when she needed help and sought out that help.  Although she did not have much herself, she met the needs of her children and those around her that were worse off than she was.  She had a deep faith in God and brought up her children to honor God.  I know that some of the qualities that I possess are a direct result of what I learned from her.  She was willing to pass along those life lessons she learned to her children and grandchildren.
  7. Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?  I think that sometimes others put qualities onto a strong woman that may not be true.  They may think that when she is determined or stepping out on her own that she is unwilling to learn from others or has a “know it all” attitude.  Or that because she is strong she can’t also be vulnerable or feeling.  It’s so important that you get to know her, to know what is important to her or what she may need.
  8. If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?  I would encourage one to find a woman that personifies the qualities that you find important and be willing to learn from them.  You have to be willing to hear that a decision that you made might not have been the right one, but what is important is how you respond to those situations.  Know that you aren’t going to get it right every time, but learning from those situations will help you in your future decisions and how you respond can be so important.

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Thank you, Heather, for participating and sharing your thoughts on the Resilient Woman.

Heather is active on social media too. She can found on

Twitter: www.Twitter.com/hlsgobucks/

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/hlspindler/

Stay tuned for next weeks guest.

 

 

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Stress? Fight or Flight Part II

Did you know that outside of relationships there are quite a few reasons to be stressed?

Hi everyone! Glad you stayed tuned.

Well, let’s get to it. For a recap, we discovered stress to be associated with that fight or fight feeling that one gets in a situation that seems unanswerable. Stress can also affect any and everyone.

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Did you know that outside of relationships there are quite a few reasons to be stressed? In fact, according to the American Psychology Association, a study from 2007 to 2010 revealed money, work, the economy, and family responsibilities to be leading causes of stress.

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Respondents point out that the pressures of responsibility in the workplace contribute to increased stress to meet deadlines. What’s interesting is in 2007 74% were affected as compared to a 5 to 6 percent drop over the next couple of years. Curiosity led me to find out that during the 2007 year in the U.S. there was a major housing bubble event. The stress connected with not having a home could be overwhelming.

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Respondents also claimed earning money as the second reason stress is prevalent. Perhaps this is because of a combination of contributing factors stemming from either overindulgent personal desires or overall economics.

What are the symptoms of stress? As there are many causes of stress, there are quite a few symptoms that one may exhibit.

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A lack of interest could be noticed in a person who customarily is involved. On the other hand, lack of appetite could be an obvious one. Especially when you know the person is quite fond of eating. Some individuals may experience common symptoms of having a headache or exhibiting fatigue. The attached survey highlights a few others of what percentage respondents experienced from the years 2007-2010.

So what are the long-term effects of stress if not managed? Well, the effects range from behavioral and physical.

Behavioral effects could range from one being depressed to serious anxiety attacks.

Stress if not managed properly could affect eating habits that lead to obesity. In some, sexual performance problems could be evident. Other extended issues might be related to skin, hair, intestinal, and menstrual.

So what can be done to help manage stress? Well, let’s see.

  • Support from loved ones-those close by(friends too) can be pillars in the time of stress offering mental, physical, and monetary support
  • Regular exercise-physical exercises can be a great way to take your focus off of stressful circumstance. Physical activity causes you to redirect your energies to whatever the task is at hand; Basketball, Pool, swimming, running, resistance training, or yoga.
  • Meditation-spending time just relaxing(quiet time) and mentally redirecting energies is a great way to reset your mind.
  • Listening to Music-Music is an ultimate mood changer. Music melodies have a way of soothing or energizing the mind. This can be an enjoyable way to be mentally massaged.
  • Reading-reading is a sure fire way to redirect your focus. In order to understand what you’re reading your mind has to be in the game.

So, there you go. Not a complete list but hopefully a decent informational teaser regarding stress.

Stress is definitely real and no laughing matter. With more expected out of an individual today in practically the same amount of hours in the day, one can feel overwhelmed. Stats show that situations have affected everyone across the globe, so adopting stress managing techniques will be a must.

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Recapping, we found out that stress is that Fight or Flight feeling one gets when in a pressure type situation. Stress can affect anyone. It does not matter regarding gender, age, nationality, or status in life. We discussed some of the symptoms related to being stressful and the potential causes. It was revealed that stress, if not managed, can affect one mentally and have physical effects. Finally, incorporating stress management tools will help to relieve or even eradicate the impact of stress in one’s life.

Glad you were able to tune in. Thanks for reading. With every post, I learn a little bit more and love sharing to encourage. Hope you were enlightened.

Stay tuned for the next post.

Christmas Eve Get Together 2017

Although Christmas has passed, as promised, I wanted to share the experience of this years’ Christmas Eve get together.

A few years back the idea of having one was only talked about and after a little bit of persuasion, the wish was granted. Let me tell you, it has been a hit and this year was definitely better than the last. Why you ask? Well, there was plenty of good food, interesting games, and new faces.

Outside of a traditional meal of roasted beef or turkey, colorful vegetables, delicious casseroles, and eye-popping desserts the menu is toned back to more of a sporting environment. The menu consisted of buffalo chicken tacos, hot wings and a beef and potato stew. Simply delicious and satisfying! Yum yum! Christmas Day the aforementioned menu was eaten. Haha.

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Games are always fun! One game that is a highlight is the Saran Wrap Ball game. One simply buys plenty of trinkets to wrap in layers with saran wrap plastic. The size of the ball is determined by how many trinkets are wrapped. What’s wrapped can be candy, gift cards, pencils, pens, or even a notepad.  The catch is one has to use cooking mittens to unwrap the ball in 30 seconds. Several turns by everyone will ultimately shrink the ball. Hilarious! It will sure get all involved.

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The new game can involve up to 8 people or more. It is called Fact or Crap. The game consists of cards with questions that are either fact or crap. Each player gets tokens and depending on whether your answer to the question is fact or crap determines whether you increase your tokens or give them up. Gotta know your stuff about this game. Plenty of guessing too. The winner will be the one with the most chips. By the way, I was the first to depart the game due to no tokens. Bummer! The winner that ran away with the game was the youngest of us all. A 7th grader who was not only a good guesser but remembered many of the historical notes taught in school. Awesome!

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Finally, this year brought in a new friend to the group. A very close friend of mine married and his wife enjoyed the get-together. He texted me later that evening and noted they had a blast. Very encouraging. There were also a few young additions to the family that enjoyed the food, gifts, and camaraderie.

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Well, that’s it! I hope I did not bore you. This was special for me because there was a time I was not involved in anything like this. Very Thankful. I will be looking forward to next year.

Up next- I’ll share my New Year Resolutions.

Photos: courtesy of Giphy

It’s Christmas Day

Hello Friends! 

So how was this years’ Christmas for ya? Did you get out of it what you expected? Well, I hope it went as you so desired.

Hello Friends!

So how was this years’ Christmas for ya? Did you get out of it what you expected? Well, I hope it went as you so desired.

Christmas time is definitely one of my better holidays. I personally love the atmosphere of giving that surrounds it.  Although I do not get as many gifts as I was when in my youth, haha, I still love this time of year. The atmosphere just presents the right conditions to be unselfish and think of someone else. I personally use this time of year to give cards to employee families that express my thanks and gratitude for their invaluable contribution to the team.

I love the lights. I have seen so many nice decorations. Many have decorated their homes and offices so nice with color and designs. One design showed the entire house being decorated with the focal point being a 50 ft lighted archway as you approached the door. So magnificent!

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I love the celebrations. History will prove that this time of year spurs on many celebrations. Many celebrate their cultures existence, some celebrate just to celebrate, and others celebrate the birth of Christ.

I had the chance to go to a Chinese Lantern Festival. Wow. Nice! Love the food, designs, color, and history. Definitely, a must see if you have not experienced.

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I love the food. This is kind of a given to me. Although I love to eat any time of the year,  Christmas time presents a couple of season-specific treats. There are the good old egg-nog and Gingerbread cookie.

Of course, there is roasted turkey, Christmas ham, plenty of veggie trays, a mix of casseroles, and a plethora of desserts. Whatever offered I can tell you I am usually game to eat. This year as part of a pre-Christmas Day bash, Buffalo chicken dip, taco salad and green bean potato soup were on the list.  So good! I’m sure I went over my calories for the day. Haha!

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Well, again! My prayer is that you my friend had a good time sharing, giving, or receiving on this 2017 Christmas Day.

Stay tuned for the next post where I share highlights of the 2017 Pre-Christmas day celebration.

Much love to you all!

Photos: Courtesy Giphy

 

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Relocating? Don’t fret! Its all in a good plan.

So have you ever had to move away from familiar surroundings due to job related responsibilities?

So have you ever had to move away from familiar surroundings due to job related responsibilities?

I mean having to relocate and leave behind those who are familiar and dear to you.

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Although this may seem far fetch to some, today this is an all too common scenario.

Today, companies are expanding due to business ventures and in some cases require employees to relocate for a bit to ensure the company gets a foot hold wherever they are.

If this is your case don’t fret. Here are a few tips that can help you stay connected and still feel apart of the family.

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In the coming month I will suggest in a four part weekly series ideas to help you feel connected, maintain communication, and keep focus.

Relocating for however long for one can be nerve racking. This can be doubly stressful when family is involved. The pressure is even elevated when there is no plan. Just as with any task or venture a good plan is a must. This is why!

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A good plan covers:

  1. What your dealing with now?
  2. How you plan to address the issue if any?
  3. Where do you plan to go?
  4. How do you plan to achieve the goal?
  5. Who is going to be affected and
  6. When do you accept the decision?

Think of it this way. When a business wants to expand there is much preplanning. A detailed financial analysis is conducted to determine whether the expansion will be worth it. So all associated cost are assessed, a site visit is conducted, and a competitor analysis is reviewed. This of course is just a few of the criteria used to validate the expansion. Every company has its formula.

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Now, in much the same fashion one must conduct this sort of analysis to come up with a plan. One has to:

  1. Determine whether the move will financially increase the position.
  2. Assess all costs associated with the move.
  3. Involve others who have made a similar move to garner related information.
  4. Investigate site to assess any concerns.
  5. What are the native cost of living concerns.

There are of course other questions but these are enough to get the ball rolling in developing a plan.

Spend time with your family or friends and talk about it. Getting all concerns out on the table helps to address any potential issues.

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Remember this is a decision that impacts not only you but others who are tied to you financially. So, being open and honest as well as welcoming all thoughts can make an otherwise stressful event more accepting.

Stay tuned!

 

Photos and gifs courtesy of giphy.

 

 

Eat Smarter, Live Well!

Is it really about what you eat?? My hunch is that it is. If you care about your health and wellbeing eating the right thing is a must!

Hello there! Welcome back! As promised I want to share a bit about what my lifestyle entails. One of the things I have learned to accept with a positive outlook on life is the fact that we are what we eat. Before I go deep into this let us just look at what should be obvious to us today. Foods today are not what they were say in the early 1900’s. Our culture was one that lived on farms and grew most foods. Whether it was cattle, grain, or vegetable society mainly ate from the fruit of the land with very little manufactured processing. Consequently, most foods kept a majority of their nutritional value. This, in turn, helped mankind to consume a high concentration of foods with plenty of vitamins and minerals.

Fast forward to today, there are far fewer family-owned farms and most foods are processed. Advanced processes in agricultural technology have been the main cause; allowing for greater and quicker yields that are insect and disease resistant. As a result, food today appears to have lost a bit of the full nutritional value to be offered and replaced with fillers.

So with this, one has to eat smarter meaning they must educate themselves about what is consumed. Taking the time to do this will not only reward one with the self-satisfaction of doing well but also reaping the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. Eat smarter and live well I say!

Personally, I’ve benefited from eating healthier!  From feeling sluggish all the time with no energy to being alert and vibrant I attribute most of the change to eating healthier. This means eating less processed foods to consuming more organic-prepped based foods.

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A quick way to gage this is just to look at the label. Are there ingredients on there you cannot pronounce? Hmmm? Far cry from just your plain descriptions.

Let me remind you though, that it has been a journey not always covered with rose petals. I have had to learn over time what promotes a healthy lifestyle and what works against it.  This is what I stress. Do what fits you and promotes a healthy lifestyle so that you:

  1. Can enjoy your family
  2. Family can enjoy you
  3. Share your ideas
  4. Enjoy travel, reading, sports, bike rides, plays, walks in the park!

With much Love