How to Stay​ Upbeat

The waves of life can cause you to be tossed to and fro. These tips will help smooth the ride

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Howdy! How are you this week? I am good. I can’t complain.

I have learned this through life’s ups and downs to stay even-keeled.  Not to get too excited or too down about any circumstance. Sure, its good to recognize the circumstance and pay some emotion to it but not to get so involved as to lose stability.

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That being said I want to share with you a few tips I believe will help you stay upbeat through the waves of life. For me, these tips are likened to a stabilizer bar on a vehicle which assists the vehicle to maintain sure contact with the road. As you know, this helps keep the car on the road and handle disturbances such as potholes and other obstructions.

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Just as you keep identification information on you keep these in your pocket too. Lol.

Keep in your pocket

  1. Good friends– A good friend is a jewel that will lend an ear as well as keep you in check when needed. He or she will provide the encouragement when needed or the guidance to get you through a circumstance.
  2. A Spiritual leader– This life is kind of a culmination of two worlds. One is the physical and the other is spiritual. The physical is what we naturally see with the eye and revolves around our five senses. The spiritual is what we cannot see with the physical eye but revolves around faith and morality. Connecting with someone who has devoted themselves to receiving and teaching these principles could be a valuable resource.woman-690118__480
  3. The Professional- Our society has become a world of many disciplines. Financial wizards, medical students, automobile technicians, fitness gurus, travel explorers, food creators, technology experts, and blog professionals. This being the case, one has to connect with a professional to get the scoop on how things really work in that world. Sure you can possibly do your self but eventually, time management will have to be dealt with for you to effectively promote and function.
  4. Engagement– Socializing with others is a must in a world of others. Just think if you really wanted things to happen for you all the time where you are king or queen it would be a world of only “You” and “Lonely”. I don’t think we really want what is desired. Interacting with others is much like interacting with nature. Either is alive in its own being and rely on the air to breathe. The connection with others can actually be mentally therapeutic if mixed with a bit of humility. It can do wonders for social maturity.

 

Well, I hope you find these useful. They are not a complete do it all list but tips that may help you in a pinch.

Much love to you and success in all you do. For more useful life encouraging tips and ideas connect with me on Instagram TV and Pinterest. I would love your company.

 

 

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The Resilient Woman series

Courage, Tenacity, Persistence

Hello Friends! Glad your back!

If you have not tuned in lately, I’d say you’ve missed some valuable information pertaining to the theme “The Resilient Woman“. But don’t fret, there is still time to catch up! The guests have been simply exceptional. All have provided varying life perspectives yet reinforce the fact that courage, tenacity, and persistence are in the Resilient Woman’s DNA.

This weeks’ guest is Tanethia Holden.

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Tanethia is a true warrior and this is no lie. Tanethia is an army veteran who has endured her fair share of life trials. She is an unwed mother to her daughter who has embraced the courage to face anything that may rise against her success. Her current job as a Registered Nurse in an ICU embodies the mindset of one who is a quick decision maker and displays a never give up attitude. Read on and receive her thoughts on “The Resilient Woman”

So, Tanethia…

TWH- What is your definition of a strong woman?

A strong woman has learned how to play off of her strengths and leverage her weaknesses.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

I think love makes us resilient. When a woman learns how to truly love herself, she won’t succumb to the pain this world has to offer. Love is very transformative. When I started reading up on self-love and seeing images of women who talked about self-care and love, I started to move and think differently about myself.

I have always considered myself as being resilient because of my flexible nature. I try to be receptive to new ways of thinking and perception. If you’re rigid in your ways and frame of thought, how can you be resilient when there will be a time for a change in your life?

So essentially, love and flexibility are a couple of qualities that a resilient woman possesses.

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?

If any woman has had a child or children, by nature, she transforms to be the woman she needs to be for her kids. If a woman has ever had her heart broken, she still finds the will to hope for the type of love she is deserving of.

TWH-  What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?

Sometimes we get beat down with life (work, raising kids, mental/physical/sexual abuse), and it can become difficult for a woman to see the forest from the trees.

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TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

For instance, the Me Too movement has opened the doors for women who felt they didn’t have a voice when egregious things have happened to them. Society doesn’t really recognize a resilient woman. But it doesn’t even fucking matter because we as women are making things happen whether men or society want to acknowledge us or not.

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

I look over my life and see the woman I am becoming and always have been. I look at myself as an example. I don’t know of anyone else’s journey as intimately as I know my own. My grandma is another example. She suffered a stroke and has been in a nursing home for the past several years. I don’t know how she does it, but she speaks as though she is walking and living a full life. She lives in the hope of doing more extraordinary things.

TWH  Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

I think a woman is a fool if she thinks being strong all day long, 24/7/365 is the business. Being strong all the time is a limitation in itself. It takes me back to my earlier point about a resilient woman knowing how to leverage her weaknesses. That’s why it’s essential to at least have good, reliable people in your life to help you get through life’s up and downs.

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I always lend an encouraging word. Or I would be frank about my evaluation of a situation if my sister-friend needed advice. I will provide the support that she would need. My support would be loving but limited because I vowed not to be strong for others for the sake of my sanity and mental health.

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Tanethia, thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts on “The Resilient Woman”

Well, I told you, folks. Her thoughts are definitely energizing and should provoke you to handle business as you originally planned.  Don’t hold back but press and go after it!

Tanethia is quite active on social media too. Connect with her weekly to be inspired.

Tanethia Holden- Social media information below

Twitter:  www.twitter.com/OMG_its_misst/

Instagram: www.instagram.com/ladytanethia/

Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/tanethia/

Blog/website: queendomreigns.com

 

Eat Smarter, Live Well!

Is it really about what you eat?? My hunch is that it is. If you care about your health and wellbeing eating the right thing is a must!

Hello there! Welcome back! As promised I want to share a bit about what my lifestyle entails. One of the things I have learned to accept with a positive outlook on life is the fact that we are what we eat. Before I go deep into this let us just look at what should be obvious to us today. Foods today are not what they were say in the early 1900’s. Our culture was one that lived on farms and grew most foods. Whether it was cattle, grain, or vegetable society mainly ate from the fruit of the land with very little manufactured processing. Consequently, most foods kept a majority of their nutritional value. This, in turn, helped mankind to consume a high concentration of foods with plenty of vitamins and minerals.

Fast forward to today, there are far fewer family-owned farms and most foods are processed. Advanced processes in agricultural technology have been the main cause; allowing for greater and quicker yields that are insect and disease resistant. As a result, food today appears to have lost a bit of the full nutritional value to be offered and replaced with fillers.

So with this, one has to eat smarter meaning they must educate themselves about what is consumed. Taking the time to do this will not only reward one with the self-satisfaction of doing well but also reaping the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. Eat smarter and live well I say!

Personally, I’ve benefited from eating healthier!  From feeling sluggish all the time with no energy to being alert and vibrant I attribute most of the change to eating healthier. This means eating less processed foods to consuming more organic-prepped based foods.

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A quick way to gage this is just to look at the label. Are there ingredients on there you cannot pronounce? Hmmm? Far cry from just your plain descriptions.

Let me remind you though, that it has been a journey not always covered with rose petals. I have had to learn over time what promotes a healthy lifestyle and what works against it.  This is what I stress. Do what fits you and promotes a healthy lifestyle so that you:

  1. Can enjoy your family
  2. Family can enjoy you
  3. Share your ideas
  4. Enjoy travel, reading, sports, bike rides, plays, walks in the park!

With much Love