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The Resilient Woman series

Courage Tenacity Persistence

Welcome back, friend! Glad you could stop by and catch up on the latest regarding the Resilient Woman series.

Overall, it has been an enlightening experience to interview the ladies. One will certainly be energized to persevere through life’s challenges after reading their personal success stories.

This weeks guest is Tierra Baisden!

Tierra considers herself to be an overcomer. How? She admits she has battled mentally receiving acceptance from others. A common struggle among many who face peer pressure of some sort. As she has matured though, she understands that one must make up in their own mind to live their life for themselves and no one else, for this is what makes one unique. Tierra loves to binge watch her favorite TV shows, drink lots of coffee, and engage in physical fitness workouts alongside her husband. Read on as she shares her thoughts.

Welcome, Tierra! Glad to have you as a guess.

TWH– What is your definition of a Resilient Woman?

A strong woman for me exhibits Independence, takes on challenges, able to move forward when situations go left, and capable of standing up for yourself. I also think when women, specifically mothers who lose a child or overcome something traumatic while pregnant show signs of a strong woman. The strength they carry helps mold them to be this strong mother/person.

TWH– A Resilient Woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

Entertains Challenges: she takes on challenges like a champ. She goes head in and doesn’t think about it, she just does it.

Accepts Failure: even through mistakes, or something not going the way it should, she becomes persistence in bettering herself.

Enjoys Independence: being able to hold her own and do things herself, without always needing the help from someone.

TWH– Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the Resilient women in action?

Yes!

My mother! I don’t remember too much as a young kid, but for her to be able to handle my brother and me close in age, and then my sister at such a young age is amazing! The strength she had to gain by taking care of three young kids while my dad was working shows that woman/ mothers can do anything.
My sister! She takes on motherhood with breeze; even when facing life’s obstacles.
My friend! She recently had a baby, who had to face some challenges in the beginning. To see what she went through and how she overcame it blows my mind every time I think about it.

TWH– What barriers if any may the Resilient Women encounter?

The number one thing that I think women encounter, is accepting self. Most women do not know how to love themselves and accept who they are. They compare themselves with other women and become this person they’re not.
The workplace. Positions, sexual harassment, being at the top, etc.

TWH– Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

I would say yes and no. I know on IG, some of the women I follow (bloggers/mothers), from time to time post women who inspire them. So, I think women are being recognized for what they do, but I also don’t think that it’s being recognized enough (hence the no).

TWH– Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

From my age group, I would have to say a close friend of mine. Just seeing all that she has endured in the last couple of years inspires me as a woman and one day a mother.
A friend from high school who lost her daughter last year. How she got through and still able to carry a smile.
Women in general who are doing things for themselves, setting goals, and accomplishing them are all strong women!!

TWH– Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

No.

TWH– If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

Letting them know they can do anything their heart desires. No matter what anyone says (family, friends, co-workers, etc), you can do it, if you believe it! You’ll be faced with challenges, but whatever you do, keep swimming! Don’t stop and stay stuck, because you’ll be stuck there forever. Never get comfortable! Don’t always look for help (nothing wrong with asking for help), but sometimes you have to do things by yourself, you can’t always depend on people. And, never put expectations on people, you’ll be left disappointed. Always remember to love yourself and take care of yourself!

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Thanks, Tierra for sharing these inspiring thoughts. Your points are well noted. Especially your point of comparing one’s self with another.

Life certainly encompasses a combination of uniques individuals not a combination of the same.

Thank so much for taking the time to share your candid thoughts.

Well, there you go, my friend! Another encouraging life example of pressing through challenges. Tierra can be found on other social media outlets too. Check her out here.

www.twitter.com/tierradeynee/

www.facebook.com/tierra.baisden/

The Resilient Woman series

Courage Tenacity Persistence

Welcome back friend to this weeks guest interview. Hope all is well.

If not caught up, click here to get the why behind “The Resilient Woman Series”.

This weeks guest is putting her money where her passion is. She is literally a walking example of one who has endured a common struggle. Overcoming anxiety and depression has fueled her to establish a portal designed to encourage, infuse, and ultimately transform the mind toward positive growth. Read on as she shares her passion.

Meet Seppy.

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My name is Seppy and I’m a personal development blogger from Elle is for Love, where I share action-based inspired tools and resources to help women slay their goals and live their dream life.

For years, I struggled with depression and anxiety. I felt lost and hopeless; I didn’t have direction or purpose and every day was a struggle to get out of bed. Until I turned things around and transformed my life, my mind and my body. I started implementing goal-slaying strategies to slowly but surely build a life that I love.

I wake up almost every day feeling excited and motivated. I’ve seen firsthand the transformation that happens when you apply the right tools and strategies to transform yourself and your life. And I want to share that with other women so that they can feel empowered to take control of their destiny and live a life that they LOVE.

That is awesome Seppy. Your efforts will certainly energize and motivate others.

TWH- What is your definition of a strong woman?

A strong woman has the strength and wisdom to get through anything. She is able to find the resources and help she needs to solve any problem and has the patience and desire to learn and grow.

A strong woman is someone who is able to recognize her strengths and weaknesses, that has the courage to admit when they are wrong or don’t know something. She is able to balance her emotional and intellectual side. She is not embarrassed to be in touch with her emotions and recognizes the value it can bring.

A strong woman doesn’t need the validation of others but recognizes her own value and what she has to offer in the world. She isn’t afraid to share her true self, while also being respectful of others and understanding of differences that might arise.

She is able to take constructive criticism and is constantly working on herself to become better and stronger every day. She doesn’t shy away from challenging situations but welcomes it because she knows that it’s an opportunity to grow even stronger.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

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A resilient woman is insightful, strong, and compassionate.

She has insight into herself, her capacities and her weaknesses, which allows her to reach out for help when she needs it. She also has the insight and wisdom to recognize that everything happens for a reason and that if she is able to understand and appreciate the lesson in any situation, then it won’t be as hard to bare.

A resilient woman is strong – strong enough to know that she is able to get through it and strong-willed to not let things get her down. She is able to pick herself back up, dust herself off and keep going.

A resilient woman is so strong that she keeps a brave face so that others can feel courageous and at ease. But a resilient woman is also able to be vulnerable and let her emotions show, without letting them take over and paralyze her.

She is compassionate because she recognizes that everyone has their own journey and their own struggles and that we all need to be more kind towards each other. She is compassionate towards herself as well, to give herself the time and space needed to process her emotions and feelings, and then be able to get back on her feet and continue.

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase The Resilient Women in action?

My mother is a resilient woman. My family and I lived in Guinea, Africa for 6 years. At the time, Guinea was one of the poorest countries of the world. Access to resources was very limited – we often didn’t have power or access to clean water, and the variety of food was limited. Even though we were obviously better off than most, it was still a challenging and unpredictable lifestyle, especially with the added political instability.

But my mother always kept a smile on her face, never complained and always made things fun for my sisters and I. Bath time became fun because we would bathe in a big bucket outside in the yard. Dinner time was fun because it often became a romantic candlelight dinner. She always managed to come up with fun adventures and activities for us so that my sisters and I did not feel the challenges of life that we faced in Guinea.

My mom was resilient because she faced a lot of obstacles to be able to fulfill her role as a mother (at least in the ‘traditional’ sense of the term), but she rose above the challenges, never let them bring her down. She always made the best of it so that her family felt inspired and happy because she created a fun and positive environment.

TWH- What barriers if any may The Resilient Women encounter?

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The biggest barrier a resilient woman might encounter is herself: her mindset, thoughts, and interpretation when facing a challenging situation. Anyone can feel discouraged or disheartened.

But that’s a mindset where you believe that life is happening TO you rather than for you. It’s an opportunity to change your perspective to see what you can learn, rather than focusing on the lack or how you wish something was different. Everything happens for a reason and a resilient woman recognizes that.

A resilient woman has the insight and wisdom to recognize that her emotions are valid at the moment, but that feeling discouraged won’t help her. She is able to overcome those limiting beliefs and empower herself to face the challenge head first and deal with it.

TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

There has been a growing movement recently, recognizing the strength and resilience of women. Women have a tendency not to speak up or to show their strength, but with different stories emerging of the extreme challenges faced by women around the world, there is a growing recognition of the strength and resilience of women.

For example, as women, we face a lot of expectations for our careers to our looks and our behavior. But there’s growing awareness that these are false expectations that are being imposed on us and that we should each carve out our own expectations for ourselves and follow our own paths.

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

I think that all women have the strength within them, but it’s a matter of uncovering and unleashing their full potential. All the women around me, my sisters, my mother, my cousins, my aunts, my friends…they all have strengths in some areas and weaknesses and others. But they are not defined by their weaknesses but by their strengths and capacities.

If I had to give an example of a strong woman that is known around the world, I think of Michelle Obama. She is able to be vulnerable and share a softer side while being outspoken and an advocate for subjects that are important to her. She is strong because she knows her worth and her value, while also recognizing her role as a mother, a wife, and a human being.

Another strong woman that I know is my aunt. She went through a lot in her life and instead of letting her life experiences get her down and make her disheartened and frustrated, she continues to keep a smile on her face and is always trying to help others. Her life circumstances haven’t brought her down but have rather made her stronger and more resilient. She is able to handle any situation, with her head held high.

TWH- Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

The only limit to a strong woman is herself and her beliefs of what she is and isn’t capable of doing.

We all have unlimited capacities to accomplish whatever we set our minds to. It’s only our mindset and our limiting beliefs that hold us back from fulfilling our full potential.

Like I mentioned before, every woman is inherently strong. We were built to be mothers and to raise children, which is physically, emotionally and spiritually a really demanding role. So our genetics make us strong, regardless of our life experiences. But I think that all women need to be given the opportunity to uncover their strength that lies within them.

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I think that the moment a woman recognizes her worth, what she has to offer, and understands that her unique voice and journey is inspiring, she will become an unstoppable force.

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Women need to feel empowered to use their voice and their stories to connect with others and to make a difference. Once they recognize that their voice matters, that their story is unique and valuable and that someone needs to hear their stories, they will feel compelled to use their voice. And then it becomes a positive reinforcing and unstoppable cycle where the more she uses her voice and is inspired to speak up, the stronger and more powerful she will feel.

Well said Seppy! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and being a positive role model for ladies everywhere.

Well folks, here we have another example of courage, tenacity, and persistence in action. Seppy has certainly shown that although challenges are encountered one has by default the makeup to accept those challenges and be successful.

Thanks again Seppy for taking the time to share your experiences.

Seppy shares her passion on other social media networks listed below.

Twitter https://twitter.com/SeppyforLove

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/seppyforlove/

Pinterest https://www.pinterest.ca/SeppyForLove/

Blog/website http://elleisforlove.com

The Resilient Woman series

Courage Tenacity Persistence

Hello, again my friends! Welcome back to The Resilient Woman series. If you need to be filled in click here.

If you are reading this then you’re certainly at the right place. Here you will find encouragement to press on no matter what the circumstance. This weeks guest possesses a unique artistic flava. One that peaks your curiosity yet is quite pleasing to the eye.

Meet Lena Dee

Growing up in the Carribean, Lena comes from a small family. She has learned to face her challenges head-on and grow from them. Like many who experience life’s ups and downs, she has developed a resiliency that others will definitely relate to. Barely missing out on attending The University abroad might have opened a door to anxiety attacks and depression, but courage and a never stop pressing mindset encouraged her otherwise.

As a millennial, today she participates in life as we all do showing her might through word and her determination by accepting the challenges along the way to a Masters Degree. Read on as she shares her candid thoughts.

So Lenna…

TWH- What is your definition of a strong woman?

My idea of a strong woman is one that knows no bounds. She doesn’t take no for an answer and no matter what comes her way she does NOT give up. She possesses patience and endurance because no matter what comes her way, she doesn’t take a stumbling fall to mean she’s shattered and cannot rebuild herself. She finds strengths in her weaknesses and learns from experiences to grow.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

(I hope I answer this correctly from my understanding of the question)

I think there is no one set of qualities a strong woman possesses but several, each varying from woman to woman. Few qualities may overlap between women but in looking at a female’s strength holistically, I do not believe you can isolate qualities to say that any as a singularity defines strength. Strength is a collection of qualities that change from woman to woman. One woman’s form of strength may not be found in another. The key goal, however, is striving to succeed in life, regardless of what that means to you.

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?

One I would say is the situation of single mothers. To the world, this is one person but to her child/children, she is the world. The odds aren’t always in the favor of single moms and to many, systems of society try to exploit their state of being alone or a sole parent as a weakness. Many times over, these moms are faced with obstacles that test their strength and capability to provide and nurture another individual. There’s no book telling you what to do but many people like to interject and tell them they’re doing it wrong. I think any single mom that puts her child or children at the top of her hierarchy and has the determination to keep pushing through for her little family is not just a resilient woman but a superhero.

TWH- What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?

There are so many barriers resilient women face. From men telling them, they can’t perform their roles efficiently to other women judging them for their choices. Being resilient is not for the weak at heart. It doesn’t mean you will always come out on top for every battle but that you have the perseverance to keep fighting for an outcome that can lead you in the right direction to succeed. In life, there will ALWAYS be people and more “powerful” forces trying to deter you from your path to success. At the end of it all, it is your choice and willpower to generate a strong state of mind that will keep driving you forward. It is not easy, especially for those who may not have as much support as others, but where there is a will, there is a way.

TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

Is society trying? Yes! Can more be done? Most definitely!

I feel like to some extent society recognizes a resilient woman but there is most certainly more to be done. I mean, look at the way we’ve been taught to socialize and have a majority of social institutions not built in the favor of women isn’t helping. There is still a lot of gender bias. Many eras have passed women fighting their hearts out and dying for equality but we will never be equal to men, nor should we want to be. I think females NEED to see themselves more as the forces to be reckoned with that they really are. I think we’ve lost many battles wanting equality instead of fairness. Fairness in a society that is very in the middle about the topic of females and our resilience. Society wants change to occur for females but still isn’t fully inclined to let it happen or to provide the building blocks for the change. Right now, females have fought to the point where the conversation is changing. More of our voices are being heard, especially on social media platforms, more movements are being recognized and are more inclusive of women from different socio-economic backgrounds and religions. I think the varying concepts of what a society is, can still create a division for women. I believe unity is the key across borders but obviously, that’s easier said than done. There are still many places around the world that aren’t as mainstream as certain parts of the Western Hemisphere (i.e USA, Canada, UK etc.) where there is still a very strong patriarchy that opposes women. Where young girls are indoctrinated to feel powerless and like the inferior being. In those types of places, I think females who are brave enough to endure those constraints, build a certain resilience that isn’t recognized enough by societies. We are more powerful than we think and the day more of us can access this power mentally and internalize it, we will be unstoppable.

Lol sorry, it’s so lengthy!

TWH, not a problem at all. Your thoughts are most welcomed.

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

I don’t necessarily have one person in mind but several. I think women from all backgrounds who have the strength to get up daily and face this world and to continue to claw their way through whatever comes at them, are magnificently strong. Strength can’t be accredited to one or a few but to many. Many women who get knocked down ten times over continuously but get back up eleven. Not every woman has the strength to keep fighting, many lose the battle daily and eventually the war. They may not be deceased but they become mental slaves to their circumstances or the oppression they face. The day you become mentally enslaved to someone’s false perception of you can be your darkest day yet. Until you redeem the strength to someday claw your way to the light, those shackles will not break free. With that being said, my example of strong women are the women who provide for and raise their families, the everyday woman that keeps going after what she needs to succeed and survive, the women who have been abused and tortured but fight to survive, the women that speak up on the goodness of change, and most importantly ALL females who get up daily and try.

TWH- Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

In life, everything has its form of kryptonite. Everything and everyone has a breaking point but it is whether you can recover from it or not. There exist certain weaknesses that can exhaust you but nothing lasts forever right? Exactly! There comes a moment where you find your strength in that weakness that can give you the sight you need to change courses and move forward. A strong woman may encounter several breaking points in her life that eventually builds her tolerance and propels her in her journey. Some obstacles force us to see things we don’t always want to accept but eventually learn to in order to grow as a person. Sometimes you have to lose a few battles before you can win the war. A strong woman is unstoppable but does not possess perpetual invincibility.

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I’d help them by sharing my experiences, I believe you should always want to be a student in the way of life but that doesn’t mean you can’t pass on the knowledge you’ve gathered. Every individual can go through different struggles but be observant and willing to learn from others can definitely help in most aspects. Your stories may differ but there should always be one vital commonality, never giving up. My best form of guidance is the advice to learn to love and believe in yourself. Self-love is not selfishness and it is more important than we think. Understanding that no one can give you strength but yourself and unlocking that power is the biggest form of personal development that will help you persevere.

Wow! Thanks, Lena for sharing your thoughts. I can see that you are definitely on a mission. Appreciate your input as always.

Thank you so much for this interview Al and having a chance to voice my opinion on such a subject matter.

Well friends, Can you feel it? Can you feel the passion within to motivate? I did! If you desire to share her passion below is where you can connect. She has a unique presence on social media in which one must definitely connect with and have in life’s tool bag of empowerment and courage.

PR email: info@lenadeexo.com

Twitter @lenadeexo

Instagram @_lenadee

Pinterest @lena_dee

Blog/website https://lenadeexo.com

Thanks so much for the read! My hope is that you have been educated and encouraged to go on. Stay tuned for the next weeks guest.

The Resilient Woman series

Courage Tenacity Persistence

Hello and welcome back to this week’s posts on the Resilient Woman. I hope you have enjoyed the candid responses from the ladies who so graciously accepted doing the interview.

This weeks guest can be described in a word; Determined.

Growing up, Teika Towns was exposed to much; love, separation, trust, alcoholism, partying, and determination. Although this was the case, faith helped her to overcome paths to destruction and guide her to where she is today. Her story, for many, is a common one and another great example of an individual not allowing circumstances to defeat them in life. She has developed a caring for others approach in this life that she undoubtedly has learned from past experiences.

Take a listen as she shares a few personal points that will be sure to hit home with others.

So Teika, welcome! What are your initial thoughts?

First off, I want to say thank you for allowing me the opportunity to participate and thank you for thinking of me! When you first asked me to be involved, I wasn’t really sure of what I was going to say or even, really, what it means to be a strong or resilient woman. Most of my experience has just been based on survival. But as I had time to think and reflect, please see my answers below.

TWH-What is your definition of a strong woman?

My definition of a strong woman is a woman that is not defined by the strength of the man she may be with. A strong woman knows how to carry herself, take care of her family and take care of others. A strong woman may not always have her looks together or her appearance together, which can be misconstrued as a weakened state, however, to me, it just means that she is taking care of business and will do what is necessary to make sure the needs of her family and others are met.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

A resilient woman possesses the following qualities: loyalty: loyal to her family, loyal to her job, her church, and most of all, loyal to GOD. GOD most certainly needs to play the role in a resilient woman because He is where her strength comes from.

Trust: A resilient woman can be trusted. When she displays her loyalty, those who spend any time around her can be assured that trust is the basis of her very foundation.

Bounce back: A resilient woman bounces back. I have been in a few situations where I felt like I was going to be taken down by the situation. I was married to a man for almost 4 years and we were only together for 19 months of those 4 years. Long enough to have 2 children. I felt like he thought I was young and could run my life, and I let him do it for a while to keep what I thought was “peace”. During that time period, I let myself go for a while, but I always made sure my daughter was well dressed (I didn’t have my son until after we parted ways). My mom would always notice that my clothes would be a little tattered or I may have had stains from carrying for my daughter on them. At the time, I just didn’t care; any chance I could get, I wanted to get out of the house and away from him. But the LORD dealt kindly with me and gave me my Bounce Back! I can remember when I first left him, one of the sister’s at the church said to me, in my face, “When the LORD delivers you from Egypt, you don’t go back!” I truly believe GOD used her to tell me to only look forward!!

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?

My experience is being a single mother. I had the best example of my own mother though. I would always say that if I could be half the woman and mother that she was and is, I would be all the better for it! I waited until my kids were almost out of high school to go to college. In all honesty, the only reason why I went back to school was because in 2007, when my manager, Pat Kendrick (MeeMaw), put in my review that I should go to school, I wanted to meet that goal and challenge for my job, and at the time that was the only reason. I started school in January 2008, and finished with my MBA in May 2014; all while working full-time, taking care of my kids and home, and meeting my responsibilities at church and for the LORD. I finally had to realize that was a door HE opened! My GPA ended up being nearly a 3.7 all while maintaining life! I’d have to say that was one of my most greatest showcases of being a resilient woman. I wanted to also be an example to my kids, and other young men and women at church that they can do ANYTHING!! I also re-married during that six-year period, which was a HUGE adjustment for me and my children, because up until my husband came along, we were all we had so to speak. Sure my parents and family and church family were there, but when it came down to the nitty-gritty, it was just me and my kids!

TWH- What barriers if any may the resilient women encounter?

Some barriers a resilient woman may face could be social and economic limits. But I believe this to be from man’s point of view. Those barriers are there, but it only goes to show that we must rely on GOD through those barriers. That’s also what makes us resilient, facing those barriers, but still believing we can succeed.

TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

I would have to say that society is starting to recognize the resilient woman! Look at Michelle Obama. She had to endure much in her role as FLOTUS. With all she and POTUS had to face during their tenure in the White House, I can remember in one of her speeches when she said: “When they go low, we go high!” That spoke volumes! A simple statement that poignantly says that society will try and pull a person (in many instances, women) down. And some will succumb to society, but then for the rest of us, no matter what we face, always go high!

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

My example of a strong woman, is without a doubt, my MAMA!! She is the strongest woman I know! My life sorta puddled in her footsteps with raising two children, working a full-time job, AND going to school full-time, as a single mom. If she struggled, and I know she did, she never let my sister and me see it! She was and is still my hero! If I could choose another, it would be my godmother, Tracey Posey! She too has endured so much. Not always with grace, but because of the mercy of the LORD and her persistence to want to do right by GOD. She is still a work in progress, but I appreciate the LORD for her being so candid with anyone she talks to!

TWH- Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

I do not feel there are any limits to being a strong woman. It is a personal choice. I will say that strength does lie in numbers. We must surround ourselves with other strong women, but at the same time, be there for that young woman, and even older women, who are struggling. We need to use our strength to build each other up. Most times, it isn’t a man who is belittling a woman, but it is other women, belittling other women!

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I would have to say the same as #7.

Quite truthful and gut-wrenching responses Teika. Thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts.

Well everyone, again we have another courageous lady that quite frankly is and has handled business. Hopefully, you have not only been educated in some way but encouraged to press on. Thanks for the read!

Stay tuned for next weeks guest.

The Resilient Woman series

Courage, Tenacity, Persistence

Hi friends! Welcome back to the “Resilient Woman” series. Glad you stopped by.

This weeks guest is Andrea Joy and boy is she an extension of her name. Andrea is such a delight to converse with that one must definitely have her in their tool bag of life. Her passion revolves around finances so who isn’t affected here. I am so grateful she participated in the series. Read on as she shares her candid thoughts on the Resilient Woman.

Andrea, tell us about yourself.

My name is Andrea Joy, and my goal with my blog www.savingjoyfully.com is to help you make more and save more money every month. My website shares some of the ways I have learned over the years to stretch my budget every month. My biggest interests are saving money, being more frugal, and learning new ways to make extra money on the side.

That is awesome! Well said. Everyone is impacted by money so it only stands to reason the need to be wise and frugal with it.

So Andrea, in today’s society when it is mentioned concerning the resilient or strong woman, to you…

TWH- What is your definition of a strong woman?

A strong woman is a woman that no matter what life throws at her she is able to rise above it. A strong woman may go through an abusive relationship, custody battle, divorce, loss of a child or spouse, loss of a job and still give it all she has each time. A strong woman must learn to recognize her feelings and accept them, but also learn to think and make choices based on what is best for her life not just based on her feelings.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

Hard working, she is willing to work through all that life throws at her and yet never give up. She is always determined to make it no matter what situation she is dealing with and is always choosing to rise above the hard times. She is honest about her feelings and about where she has come from throughout every area of her life and her relationships. She displays courage as she accepts what she has been through and often deals with the hardest things a person can ever have to deal with. Despite everything she goes through she does all of this in a way that she can share her triumphs and inspire others.

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?

Having a family situation with my siblings who had been removed from their home and the opportunity for me to decide whether to step in and become their caregivers. I knew the girls, who were both teenagers at that time, needed my help and support. At that time there was no question in my mind what had to be done, I had to let them live with me. The situation was very hard and despite the emotional roller coaster and the family that would choose to turn on me for my choices, I knew what I had to do. I will never regret this even though it changed my own life entirely and broke all of our hearts at times throughout the process.

TWH- What barriers if any may the resilient women encounter?

People who do not understand her choices, and her struggles. Many people will hurt her along the way and yet she will always find a way to rise above the challenges and pain life throws her way. The resilient woman will have to be strong in situations that hurt very badly and often make her question her own strength. This same woman will discover what she is really made of through these choices and will continue to pursue the right path for her life with dignity and persistence.

TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

Society does not always recognize the resilient woman because we look just like any other woman. Women are not always seen as strong and capable of great things. Depending on the strength and courage a woman possesses in the difficult times in her life she can stand out and shine in her life as she lives this life of courage. This is how you can recognize a resilient woman, she will be the one that despite everything life throws at her she is still working towards her goals and inspiring others.

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, it’s ok to share that too.

My Grandmother was always my best example of a resilient woman. She changed my entire view of women and made me the woman that I am today. She was a child who watched her mother die of a terrible illness while her father left her and her brother to raise themselves. She then moved in with her aunt and uncle who raised her and her brother until she graduated. She married young and married an abusive man and then was forced to raise her own 4 children alone for years until she met her second husband. My Grandmother was the most kind and caring woman that anyone would ever meet. My family used to say that she would give you the shirt off her back and they honestly were right. She was so loving and cared so much about others and if it were not for my Grandmother’s love in my life I would have been a very different woman today.

TWH- Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

Everyone has their limits and the strongest women usually have someone that they can talk to and confide in. They recognize that they cannot always do everything alone and they need the love and support of others in their lives. A strong woman will ask someone she can trust for help when necessary.

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I would say recognize that you are strong and capable because of who you are not because of anything else. I would tell her that whatever you put your mind to, and work hard towards is possible. I would encourage her to keep believing and working towards her dreams. We all need the help of others along the way in our lives so I would encourage her to surround herself with others who support and inspire her to be the best version of herself.

Thanks so much, Andrea for participating and sharing your thoughts. It has been my pleasure to provide a platform for us all to be enlightened as to today’s strong and woman.

Well, there you have it, folks. I told you she was a delight. Stay connected with her on these social media outlets. Till next post, stay upbeat and encouraged!

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How to Stay Upbeat

The waves of life can cause you to be tossed to and fro. These tips will help smooth the ride

Howdy! How are you this week? I am good. I can’t complain.

I have learned this through life’s ups and downs to stay even-keeled. Not to get too excited or too down about any circumstance. Sure, its good to recognize the circumstance and pay some emotion to it but not to get so involved as to lose stability.

That being said I want to share with you a few tips I believe will help you stay upbeat through the waves of life. For me, these tips are likened to a stabilizer bar on a vehicle which assists the vehicle to maintain sure contact with the road. As you know, this helps keep the car on the road and handle disturbances such as potholes and other obstructions.

Just as you keep identification information on you keep these in your pocket too. Lol.

Keep in your pocket

Good friends– A good friend is a jewel that will lend an ear as well as keep you in check when needed. He or she will provide the encouragement when needed or the guidance to get you through a circumstance.
A Spiritual leader– This life is kind of a culmination of two worlds. One is the physical and the other is spiritual. The physical is what we naturally see with the eye and revolves around our five senses. The spiritual is what we cannot see with the physical eye but revolves around faith and morality. Connecting with someone who has devoted themselves to receiving and teaching these principles could be a valuable resource.
The Professional- Our society has become a world of many disciplines. Financial wizards, medical students, automobile technicians, fitness gurus, travel explorers, food creators, technology experts, and blog professionals. This being the case, one has to connect with a professional to get the scoop on how things really work in that world. Sure you can possibly do your self but eventually, time management will have to be dealt with for you to effectively promote and function.
Engagement– Socializing with others is a must in a world of others. Just think if you really wanted things to happen for you all the time where you are king or queen it would be a world of only “You” and “Lonely”. I don’t think we really want what is desired. Interacting with others is much like interacting with nature. Either is alive in its own being and rely on the air to breathe. The connection with others can actually be mentally therapeutic if mixed with a bit of humility. It can do wonders for social maturity.

Well, I hope you find these useful. They are not a complete do it all list but tips that may help you in a pinch.

Much love to you and success in all you do. For more useful life encouraging tips and ideas connect with me on Instagram TV and Pinterest. I would love your company.

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The Resilient Woman series

Courage, Tenacity, Persistence

Hello Friends! Glad your back!

If you have not tuned in lately, I’d say you’ve missed some valuable information pertaining to the theme “The Resilient Woman“. But don’t fret, there is still time to catch up! The guests have been simply exceptional. All have provided varying life perspectives yet reinforce the fact that courage, tenacity, and persistence are in the Resilient Woman’s DNA.

This weeks’ guest is Tanethia Holden.

Tanethia is a true warrior and this is no lie. Tanethia is an army veteran who has endured her fair share of life trials. She is an unwed mother to her daughter who has embraced the courage to face anything that may rise against her success. Her current job as a Registered Nurse in an ICU embodies the mindset of one who is a quick decision maker and displays a never give up attitude. Read on and receive her thoughts on “The Resilient Woman”

So, Tanethia…

TWH- What is your definition of a strong woman?

A strong woman has learned how to play off of her strengths and leverage her weaknesses.

TWH- A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

I think love makes us resilient. When a woman learns how to truly love herself, she won’t succumb to the pain this world has to offer. Love is very transformative. When I started reading up on self-love and seeing images of women who talked about self-care and love, I started to move and think differently about myself.

I have always considered myself as being resilient because of my flexible nature. I try to be receptive to new ways of thinking and perception. If you’re rigid in your ways and frame of thought, how can you be resilient when there will be a time for a change in your life?

So essentially, love and flexibility are a couple of qualities that a resilient woman possesses.

TWH- Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action?

If any woman has had a child or children, by nature, she transforms to be the woman she needs to be for her kids. If a woman has ever had her heart broken, she still finds the will to hope for the type of love she is deserving of.

TWH- What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?

Sometimes we get beat down with life (work, raising kids, mental/physical/sexual abuse), and it can become difficult for a woman to see the forest from the trees.

TWH- Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

For instance, the Me Too movement has opened the doors for women who felt they didn’t have a voice when egregious things have happened to them. Society doesn’t really recognize a resilient woman. But it doesn’t even fucking matter because we as women are making things happen whether men or society want to acknowledge us or not.

TWH- Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

I look over my life and see the woman I am becoming and always have been. I look at myself as an example. I don’t know of anyone else’s journey as intimately as I know my own. My grandma is another example. She suffered a stroke and has been in a nursing home for the past several years. I don’t know how she does it, but she speaks as though she is walking and living a full life. She lives in the hope of doing more extraordinary things.

TWH– Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

I think a woman is a fool if she thinks being strong all day long, 24/7/365 is the business. Being strong all the time is a limitation in itself. It takes me back to my earlier point about a resilient woman knowing how to leverage her weaknesses. That’s why it’s essential to at least have good, reliable people in your life to help you get through life’s up and downs.

TWH- If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

I always lend an encouraging word. Or I would be frank about my evaluation of a situation if my sister-friend needed advice. I will provide the support that she would need. My support would be loving but limited because I vowed not to be strong for others for the sake of my sanity and mental health.

Tanethia, thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts on “The Resilient Woman”

Well, I told you, folks. Her thoughts are definitely energizing and should provoke you to handle business as you originally planned. Don’t hold back but press and go after it!

Tanethia is quite active on social media too. Connect with her weekly to be inspired.

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The Resilient Woman

In her DNA is Courage Tenacity Persistence

Hello Friends! Continuing on with the theme “The Resilient Woman”, this weeks’ interview is from one of your sweetest travel bloggers, Dianna Allen.

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The previous post, highlights the reason behind the theme and its intentions.

Dianna has had her share of tough circumstances. Growing up, she encountered bouts of racism in addition to handling a tough home life. Through it all, she has learned to be gentle but tough skinned when necessary. Overcoming these challenges has also helped her to see the world differently by not being afraid to accept responsibilities and clearly handling business in life when necessary. Dianna likes to have fun, loves to travel and always encourages a smile.

So Dianna,

TWH-What is your definition of a strong woman?

Dianna-To me, a strong woman means fearless and determined. Strength comes in the form of overcoming hardships and not being afraid to do what must be done is required. Because of this, being determined comes naturally when you’re fearless.

TWH-A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain.

Dianna-Being resilient means that you are not affected by the negative. Holding your head high every day and keeping a positive attitude is key when it seems like your world is falling apart.

TWH-Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the Resilient women in action?

Dianna-I can name quite a couple just from my own life. I’ll start with when I was 18. I actually was living in a tough household, I won’t get into too many details, but for my own mental health, I needed out. I didn’t know how to live on my own at the time, but I made it work. I balanced college and working full-time to ensure I was still able to create the best life for me. Even though those years were tough, in the end, I made the right decision. And not only did I save myself, but I also saved relationships with my family because of my actions.

On a smaller scale, I remember times I’ve been faced with racism. Being part Asian and a woman, I’ve received my fair share of racial and woman jokes. My resilience in these situations has always been to not let rude remarks affect me, however, do not allow it to be tolerated either. If it’s uncalled for, I let that be known and walk away from the situation. Trust me, you should never surround yourself with negativity. You can always walk away.

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TWH-What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter?

Dianna-Doubt. People will doubt you, it’s inevitable. Don’t take it personally. Instead, see it as an invitation to prove them wrong!

TWH-Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how?

Dianna-Society is definitely recognizing resilient women across the world! Let’s talk about current events and look at Meghan Markle, for example. That is a woman who has defied many odds through her life. From re-directing her character roles from being over-sexualized to actually respected personas and of course, how she has married into the British Royal Family as an American.

This day in age has been all about women. They are more empowered and respected than ever, and they are making sure their voices get heard.

TWH-Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too.

Dianna-For me, a strong woman is, of course, my mother. For reasons that are similar to me. When she was 23, she left her home in the Philippines and immigrated to America. An accomplishment that no one else in her large family had ever done. If that’s not fearless, then I don’t know what is! I’ve been traveling for many months now, mostly in Asia, and seeing the world she came from has truly opened my eyes to how courageous she chose to live her life.

She’s also strong because now she has to deal with missing me on the other side of the world. 😉

TWH-Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman?

Dianna-None. Never.

TWH-If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them?

Dianna-Don’t ever let someone tell you can’t do something. And in those times where you feel like you can’t do something, do not let it discourage you. Do not give up.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Harry Potter and ever since I heard it, I always think about it when times seem rough. Maybe it will help out the next person who hears it as well:

“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light.”

Thanks so much for participating and sharing your thoughts on “The Resilient Woman” Dianna.

There you have it, friends! Another unique perspective. Please show some love for Dianna. If you need the motivation to travel, Dianna can share a tip or two.

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The Resilient Woman

Courage Tenacity and Persistence

The Resilient Woman

Hello friends! Welcome back to my blog site called The Watering W(h)ole. Half the year is almost past and I have been thinking of another topic I believe warrants our attention. Courage, tenacity, and persistence have been the underlying thought of this next theme I want to share with you all.

Now, I have not totally abandoned my regularly shared health and wellness posts highlighting my transition to a healthier lifestyle but will revisit once this segment is complete.

So what is it that you are describing? Before I so boldly share in depth with you the theme, let me kinda describe to you my motivation. Over the years I have often wondered about the topic concerning what it means to be a strong woman? Viewing strictly from an open mind I could only make a response based on observing how my mother handled life.

Life for her was in the baby boomer age and involved raising two boys alone. I could only tell you that we always had a roof over our head, clothes on our back and food to eat. This was all I saw on the surface but never knew the depth of what she really had to endure. Being a woman of color, she undoubtedly had to endure social and economic barriers.

Thankfully she never let those challenges discourage her from pressing on to provide for her family.

That being said, she has been the inspiration behind the segment “The Resilient Woman”

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I am in no way an expert on who or what encompasses a Resilient Woman so I have to ask for help. I have requested input on the topic from several women. The women come from various ethnic backgrounds, economic status, and age groups. Through a series of interview questions, each will share their perspective on what encompasses the Resilient Woman.

My hope is that we all are better educated and well informed on the Strong and Resilient woman.

My first guest is originally from Canada but now resides in the United States.

Meet Heather Spindler.

Heather is the oldest of three sisters who has trooped through life successfully. Other than dealing with personal challenges, she has progressed as an example to her younger siblings, by pursuing higher education at the college “The Ohio State University”. After graduating she was hired on full time as a pre-certification representative and has progressed to the current position as manager. In her spare time, she enjoys bike riding and walks in the park.

Heather,

What is your definition of a strong woman? My definition of a strong woman is one that is able to take care of herself and those around her (depending on her life situation), while also being able to identify when she needs to ask for help or get assistance. She is also one who continues to learn new things and is willing to teach others the strengths that she possesses.
A resilient woman possesses these qualities. Explain. Determination, flexibility and a willingness to step out of her comfort zone. I am a firm believer that if you stay in your comfort zone, you will miss out on experiencing new things and learning new skills. Having said that, if you aren’t able to be flexible in situations, you will find yourself stuck in a rut or put in a box by those that you know. Finally, a determination will help you attain goals that you have set for yourself and might be the one thing that gets you through a hard situation. Stick with it – you will see results!
Could you name a few situations that highlight or showcase the resilient women in action? I admire women who have been single parents and successfully raise their children to be successful citizens. There is so much we don’t know that she has encountered and overcome. I also see successful women in the workplace. Ones that have not only become valuable employees but have mentored others to follow their lead. I have the privilege of working for such a woman. She is constantly learning new skills but takes the time to teach those things to those that work under her. She makes us better employees.
What barriers if any may a resilient woman encounter? I feel that sometimes a resilient woman may be looked at as being too strong or independent. The skills that allow her to meet the needs of her life could seem to others are standoffish or as if she doesn’t need anyone. Nothing could be further than the truth – we all need those around us.
Is society recognizing the resilient women today and if so how? I think that society is starting to recognize these women, but there is still room for improvement. I think it is the responsibility of each of us to find these women and honor them. Mentoring is so important and what better way could we honor those that we have learned from than to pass that legacy on to others?
Who is your example of a strong woman? If more, its ok to share that too. My grandmother was one of the most resilient women I know. Early in her married life, her husband and young son passed away, leaving her to raise two children on her own. She was a proud woman, but knew when she needed help and sought out that help. Although she did not have much herself, she met the needs of her children and those around her that were worse off than she was. She had a deep faith in God and brought up her children to honor God. I know that some of the qualities that I possess are a direct result of what I learned from her. She was willing to pass along those life lessons she learned to her children and grandchildren.
Do you feel there are limits to being a strong woman? I think that sometimes others put qualities onto a strong woman that may not be true. They may think that when she is determined or stepping out on her own that she is unwilling to learn from others or has a “know it all” attitude. Or that because she is strong she can’t also be vulnerable or feeling. It’s so important that you get to know her, to know what is important to her or what she may need.
If you could help guide someone to being a strong woman how would you help them? I would encourage one to find a woman that personifies the qualities that you find important and be willing to learn from them. You have to be willing to hear that a decision that you made might not have been the right one, but what is important is how you respond to those situations. Know that you aren’t going to get it right every time, but learning from those situations will help you in your future decisions and how you respond can be so important.